tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3811950719583561611.post656925922408153277..comments2023-10-28T15:45:43.647+08:00Comments on Emptied Spaces: you're sorry? ok, now what?13thWiTCHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14394570849282750072noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3811950719583561611.post-31137326750549808322009-04-15T15:51:00.000+08:002009-04-15T15:51:00.000+08:00@kuroro ruciful
for all i know my bestfriend coul...@kuroro ruciful<br /><br />for all i know my bestfriend could have killed me a million times in her head ^.^<br /><br />sorry may mean a lot of things to a lot of people. but sorry may be as meaningless as that stagnant water to the next person beside you.<br /><br />the way we view apology may vary and may be contextual -- and so is our perspective when its given... the stagnant water may not be useful to me -- but it certainly does hold meaning for you ^.^<br /><br />and it takes every ounce of courage to do things we find difficult. sure. sorry is difficult as hell - but difficulty is not only the level of category involved... and so it all goes back to choices... and when you view it that way - you'd get to ask yourself - why the act in the first place? apology comes only after an act, intentional or unintentional... you then gauge your level of understanding by asking yourself certain questions such as-- was it because of me? was it all her doing? was I to blame? and so on and so forth...<br /><br />and you will see, it is not as easy as you think it -- that that apology may be rooted to something bigger and complicated that makes the act a mockery of something you deem special. That forgiving isn't really a necessity to move on. That closure may only be a product of our social culture... or maybe not... maybe that apology is your lifeline to a better future ^.^<br /><br />it still goes back you. Your choice. Your act. Your ability to open yourself once again to a reality that once held you hostage in your most vulnerable stage. your ability to survive knowing things have already changed. <br /><br />but as for me, i chose to not put myself open to that bullet that once got me...maybe you are stronger to catch the second one coming my way.13thWiTCHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12484970035753436849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3811950719583561611.post-87798272127599043862009-04-15T06:04:00.000+08:002009-04-15T06:04:00.000+08:00saying sorry is not about clearing yourself of any...saying sorry is not about clearing yourself of any guilt nor is it about being able to sleep soundly at night after what the "guilty" party has done.<br /><br />i think saying sorry is an act that needs a tremendous amount of courage to do. It means owning up to your mistakes and accepting whatever the consequences are. It is an act that require a person to trample on their own pride.<br /><br />it is true that the receiving end is not mandated to respond with forgiveness once an apology has been made. It is however, at least for me, required for you to acknowledge that the person who has hurt you already apologized. After all, what happened, happened because of a reason and that reason could be you or something that you did/didn't do.<br /><br />Just like this scenario:<br /><I>your bestfriend becomes a murderer.<br />She tries to kill you. you live.<br /><br />Will you still call her and update her that you are home from the hospital and it's chika time? NOOO... <br /><br />but she is your bestfriend!!! of many years?! the answer would be NOOOO -- she tried to killed you remember?. <br /><br />But she's THE BESTFRIEND --- well - duh.<br /><br />if u think otherwise...there is something seriously wrong with u.<br /></I>Well have you ever thought why your best friend wanted to murder you? Maybe you did/didn't do something prompted your best friend to kill you.<br /><br />If this is the case, why should the best friend be the only one apologizing? When in the first place it was you or something you did that made your best friend want to kill you.<br /><br />i'm not saying to instantly forgive someone once he/she has already apologized. i'm merely suggesting that you acknowledge the act since saying sorry (a genuine one) is not that easy to do.Kuroro Rucifulnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3811950719583561611.post-18033042838922891762009-04-13T06:53:00.000+08:002009-04-13T06:53:00.000+08:00should be there on the 21st -- will add u in ym ^....should be there on the 21st -- will add u in ym ^.^13thWiTCHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14394570849282750072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3811950719583561611.post-43451974497708357612009-04-13T06:52:00.000+08:002009-04-13T06:52:00.000+08:00@dragoro - true - in some cases forgiveness is a n...@dragoro - true - in some cases forgiveness is a necessity -- but in cases as such - indifference would be a better response.13thWiTCHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14394570849282750072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3811950719583561611.post-91184564842584802202009-04-12T23:34:00.000+08:002009-04-12T23:34:00.000+08:00Can't muster the patience to count how many "hurts...Can't muster the patience to count how many "hurts" are there in here.. personally, one cannot move up the ladder without letting go of each rung. It doesn't necessarily mean you need to get back to where you previously had your hand on, it just means in order for me to move forward I just have to let go of the last one. Figuratively speaking, letting go necessitates forgiveness. Everyone is guilty of hurting someone else in varying depths, whether willingly or not.<BR/><BR/>Such anger inside those words, drowned with such passion. Be well :). : dragozinho : .https://www.blogger.com/profile/03669508511313943885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3811950719583561611.post-24870186154674391032009-04-12T21:47:00.000+08:002009-04-12T21:47:00.000+08:00Yo,When are you gonna be here? The shoot's gonna b...Yo,<BR/><BR/>When are you gonna be here?<BR/> <BR/>The shoot's gonna be in Manila. No exact date yet. :)<BR/><BR/>You have YM? <BR/><BR/>picasso_selloutKodak Picturezzzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17914691255499651433noreply@blogger.com