Socksargen Blogfest 2010

I have not seen so many bloggers in one location until I attended the BlogFest SOCCSKSARGEN 2010 last December 11 in East Asia Royale Hotel in Gensan.  And even though I could not remember my first blogpost, I could still remember why I decided to have one.  It was therapeutic for me.  It helps me stay put and it kills idle time.  Needless to say, I blogged about -- ME ME ME.  But now my concept of blogging has developed into something bigger than I.  And its not only me who is realizing this.

Blogs nowadays do not only contain the author's emo moments.  It now speaks of technology, tourism, politics, entertainment and more.  Blogs have morphed from personal to business.  And why not?  Blogs create good networks and thus creates more opportunities.  It can even get you a job or make self-employment easier.

It is apparent that across the globe, being online has been a part of many people's lives.  We have managed to merge our daily lives with our online personas.  We engage in blog-like activities like status updates in our social networking pages and we post photos to share for our online community to see.  We get news online, and sometimes, the internet is faster in delivering tidbits of what's happened than the media.  Communication has never been so easy and fast...sometimes, it beats real time.

With these things happening, Blogfest Organizer Avel Manansala did not waste time in coming up with an event that will help existing bloggers in their blogging career.  It was also, in a way, for me, a matter of re-organizing my goals and my perspective on why blogging is good for everyone.  Avel shared his reason why he blogged and a noble reason it was:  He sees blogging as a way to send good news to people abroad about the Philippines and he wanted to help paint a better picture of Mindanao.

Sad but true, a lot of people still think that we live primitively in the south.  Their expectations of our way of life here is somewhat short to barbaric -- warring tribes and all.  They'd be surprise to know that during the Blogfest Festival, the registration was a breeze and that it was all digital.  even the ID's were printed on the spot.  A one day blogfest with around ten experts as speakers from different parts of the globe to share their knowledge and expertise.

They were great, they talk of a lot of things-- some I'm familiar with, some are just amazing discoveries.  Things that I know, things I've never heard of and things I should  remember often.  Davao Bloggers' very own Ms. Ria Jose made the opening address and Ms. Janet Toral flew to GenSan from Manila to share her insights about blogging and business, to name a few.  But my favorite speaker was Bobby Soriano.  He was great at his presentation --Internet Security...and boy! how he made people freeze in their seats when he showed them his hacks of their online activities.

Simply put, the blogfest was a raving success.  It was not only informative, it was fun! especially when the-ganda-ever-so-much-queen Orman took the stage and shared that through his blog madaming nagladlad.  Shows how powerful some posts have become.

The digital platform has become another world and people are slowly discovering its sweet spots.  I've found my space in my blog, others in their social networks and friends...where's yours?

Congratulations Socksargen Bloggers for a job well done :) 

View Socksargen Blogfest 2011 Album

Mr. Bobby Soriano and Mr. Avel Manansala

Ms. Janet Toral of Digital Filipino

Kevin Pacquet with his "admirer"

wehehehe

Blogfest 2010 Socksarkgen Gold Sponsors: East Asia Royale Hotel, Sagittarius Mines, Smart Communications, Dolores Hotels and Resorts, Gaisano Mall of GenSan

Visconde Case

If Hubert Webb is indeed innocent, our decadent judicial system is again proving to us how inutile it is.  
But as citizens, didn't we play a part by overlooking the fact that no proper proceedings were executed, and yet, we rallied to have this man's head to be on the platter because we FELT, it was the right thing to do?

Had they declared him innocent before, I could imagine us rioting at the same decadent system we ridicule now.

Which makes me wonder... what makes us so expert in terms of defining justice when we cant even examine our own selves. 


Links that may be useful:
Ms. Janet Toral's insight on Hubert Webb and the Vizconde Case
I like this post because it shares photos of various documents and the like

Manila Times' Article on Vizconde Case with maid testimony
by Jonathan M. Hicap, January 15, 2005

Hubert Webb's Facebook Page discussion on Jessica Alfaro's Alleged Testimonies

Make some love. Earn some living.

Do what you love...for me, is a bad career advice.

How many times we find ourselves saying it to other people?

How many times have we been fed with that cliche?

Too many to count, I guess.  It has become an integrated part of our growing up.
Our seniors would often highlight their success by saying they have succeeded because they are doing what they love.  Don't believe them.  They are successful because they are good at what they do.

And no, they are no more lucky than you are.

Thing is, we are complicated, multi-faceted, and our interest shifts as time goes by.

We do not only love one thing. 

We love a lot of things.  

And how do we know what it is that we love for sure?

We love in different ways.  

We love accordingly.  

we love simultaneously.  

We don't deliberate and assess ourselves why we love.  

We just do.  

and to choose one thing that we love as a career can have its problems.  

Say, sex and food.  Our love for the two is something we all share.  

We love sex.  

We do it, but we do not get paid for it -except for the professionals.  

And would you want to be one? 

In my case, I'd have to lose a lot of pounds which means I must starve myself one way or another.  I'm not good at that, I get grumpy when I am hungry.  

Customers don't like grumpy service providers. 

And  I love to eat... I love sweets, cutting my sugar high is just downright suicidal. 

Dead service provider are never hired.

And we are more than our love for sex (and of any other things we value)...at least I think I am...I hope you feel the same way too.  And even if the sex industry sounds promising, not all of us who loves it are good at it.  

And how can you make a career of something that you are not good at?   

I tried and I downright failed miserably.  I love food and don't ask me how many times I tried learning how to cook. I just suck.  Period.  I almost put my mom's kitchen on fire which is no kitchen anyway (I'm too clever to use my own kitchen hehe).  And looking at people's reactions over my cooking is just not good for the ego and self-esteem.  

We love sex and we love food but we intermittently love them because we also love other things.  

We don't jump into bed with someone because the opportunity presents itself nor do we eat every food offered to us.  We choose partners and we select food.  We create choices and love in categories.   

In some instances, we restrain.  And it's crazy but sometimes, not giving in to something we love to do has its own satisfaction.

So get over the fact that if you don't do the things you love, you won't be happy.  

That is just bull.  

If that is true, try gluttoning on sex and food for a month without a break.  That should ensure one month of straight happiness. But you know what's gonna happen.  You'd lose your mind.   You'd feel miserable.  The things you hate, suddenly you crave just to break the monotony.  By this time, you'd do anything...just anything to get away from it. 

Why is it a problem to do the things you love as a career again?

It is impossible to do all the things you love.
If you still insist, I think, it would be a long unending career search. Try forever.

A career, like marriage obliges you to become loyal.
It requires you spend time with it and you are not allowed not find another mistress.  Companies call it, conflict of interest.Otherwise, it bitches and makes you feel incompetent. It asks for your devotion and once you give it, it opens up unending opportunities for you.  And if you love so many things, monogamy might be a little too heavy for you to handle.  You can only cheat on your partner for so long before one catches you and send you back to hell where you came from. (ok I made that up -- the where you came from part...ehehe.  Regardless, you are going to hell.)

A career is successful if one is consistent in building it and thus, the foundation of your career must first be consistent-- meaning a career should have a solid base.  

Love may be a many splendored thing but it is not consistent and neither can we count on it as solid.  

Simple, we change our minds and we project love in many ways.  

Love requires us to be creative and dynamic.  

Love pushes us to be experimental.  

Love loves to shake our stability.  

Yes, it sounds all exciting, but you have to remind yourself that your job is not to keep you excited, it is to provide you an earning.  

We cannot change our career every so often every time our love for something dies. 

I'm not saying get a job you hate.  That is insane.

I'm saying working is not about a matter of doing what you love most, but a question of what you are great at.  I tried doing a project before because I love doing programs that can help communities.  But the problem is, that certain project requires a certain expertise in the medical field that I do not have.  I cannot relate.  

My degree in philosophy did not help either.  

I tried studying but it made me feel constricted and all the more confused. 

Helpless is the word, misunderstood is second, Inefficient is the third.  

It's like fitting a large foot in a small shoe.  

All you get is frustration.  My love for helping did not cease but it did not make me effective either.

However if you build on your strengths and you develop it, you are sure to get somewhere.  

A career is something we do to get rewarded.  Love expects no reward.

Love serves a different purpose in our lives.
Don't ask that it pay your rent, buy you food, and get you a car.  Love is too good for that.

And because Love is too snobby to get us our selfish desires of luxury, Career is there to balance it out ---because Loving cannot put food on the table, Career is there to make sure you eat.  No, they don't work against eachother.  In fact they compliment, Career makes sure you are alive so that you can Love effectively.

Our career is just part of us, it is not our life. 

A job is still a job. At the end of the day, it is our relationships that shape the greatness of our lives.

But having a career you are good at is just as important as loving.  A career gives you a sense of being valued in monetary form and/or how you contribute to the society.  It can also be fulfilling because having a good career means paying the bills and giving yourself and your family the luxury money can afford.  How we do our job, whether we follow structure or not, is how the society calibrate our value.  That's why we appreciate people who are great in their fields...

You don't get paid doing what you love.
Regardless of what you say, you are not getting paid because you love it.
You are getting paid because you can pull the job off.

Know the difference.  

The moment you slack and someone outperforms you, your love for the job might help you strive to develop your skills and become better so as not to lose it.  

But at the end of the day, it's still whether you are able to deliver or not.  

So instead of saying, do what you love, why don't we say, do what you are good at and love it.  Putting your strengths as the primary requirement on choosing a career instead of putting what you want to do first.  

And stop looking for the perfect career.  You are not that special.  Yes you have your moments but you are just like everybody else.  It is only fair that you get your share of annoying managers, hard-to-deal-with-clients, Bosses-from-hell, and the satanic cult to bring some misfortune to your perfect life.

The Kikay in Me

As much as I want to act tough and no matter how many times I steal my brother's clothes to wear them, I still like being feminine.

Yes, I usually have days where I just don on whatever is on the clothes rack and just paddle my way out of the house like an ugly duckling, swaddling and all.  I don't mind if I don't wear make up or I don't wear high heels on every party.  I even smuggle my trusty havas in parties because, as we all know, high heels have a way of straining our legs and patience.  But hey, women have high tolerance for pain, why do you think we end up with jerks sometimes?

I'm certified KIKAY. I love make-up, I adore shoes, and I drool over gorgeous men handbags.  I feel happy when, out of the blue, someone would say I look beautiful and healthy.  I find it interesting how I look and feel different when I dress up.  I get amazed at how tight dresses can make my waist smaller and my bust bustier...not that such clothing are advisable all the time, lack of oxygen due to tight wardrobe can be very dangerous.  You tend to say things you don't mean *haha.

One certified kikay thing I do is my penchant for skin cleansing kits.  Not that I religiously apply them, I just like having them around.  Makes me feel feminine...whatever that means.  I grew up with a mom that had a salon, so I grew up seeing beautiful women strut around.  I like watching women with beautiful faces.  I just don't like it when I begin to stare...they tend to get uncomfortable.  Even in my photography, I like taking photos of women's faces and features...it's just sexy.

But wanting to be sexy and growing up with brutes can have its disadvantages.  Although my mom had a salon I have barbarians for babysitters.  These monkeys cannot teach you how to dress well, let alone tell you if your make up is ok.  They think you are weird if you start to put on a blush.  And tend to smirk if you put on something girlish.  These men, however, walk around with pressed powders.  Don't ask me.  I never figured it out.

With those hopeless role models mentioned above, I found it interesting when I met ria of Shoppingera.net and Brendel of GetPrettified.com and hear them chat about girlie stuff.  I have been listening to them talk and have snitched out a few tips here and there...nyahaha!

Hell, didn't even understood what the heck a BBcream is until Brendel explained it.  And how the heck should I know that blushes come in different forms?! I know I grew up in a salon, but heck, these things don't exist then.

I remember, there is this one ad i cannot forget.  It played on my mind over and over again.  It's not something I pondered over...it's just something that I always remember without trying.  I read it in a magazine somewhere...it said..."Beauty is in the inside...but what about the outside".

I never understood it.

But gradually I realized that though it may not be wholly correct, it points to a certain truth.

How you look affects how people treat you.  If you look respectable, they treat you with respect.  If you look decent, they treat you decently.  Of course other factors come into play...

Dress decently and act like a monkey --- expect them to throw bananas at you.

That is life.

You can only play dress up for so long...

You have to have the right reasons also.

 Don't lose weight because it's the trend. Lose weight because you want to be healthy.

Don't buy dresses to make others envious.

Don't put on make up to make others feel ugly.

Don't use food money to buy make up.

Stay within your budget range.

Know the difference between being kikay and being a social climber.

Check yourself if you are being kikay or you are bordering narcissism.

As always, too much of everything is bad.

While being beautiful is just part of being kikay, it is also almost as subjective as love.  It's something one should explore and discover in one's self over time.  One's concept of one's self starts from the physical but eventually you gradually understand yourself beyond what you see in the mirror.

No one will hate you if you start to care for yourself.

Kill those zits and maybe along with it, self doubt might lessen.

Trim those eyebrows, put some balm on those lips, soften those hands with a salve, and scrub yourself smooth.

Start with those and slowly deepen your love for yourself.

I'm not saying the world will change and life becomes instantly beautiful.

 But when you feel good about yourself...suddenly,  you realize, you are not facing the same problems anymore ^.^

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Empowered Filipina Activity

We had the EFA last night and was so thankful the Zerdon and Amanda VS was there to assist me in setting up the place and putting things in order.  I was happy to see Sir Seth cruise in whilst we prepare.  I thought he was just there to take photos but surprise! surprise! he took the time to be in the workshop till it ended.  Angie have been raving about Sir Seth, we are so glad he was able to attend *clap clap clap.  

Our resource speaker for that night is another empowered filipina, Ms. Mae Fe Ancheta Templa.  She is one of the strongest women I've known.  She was actually my first executive director in my first job in an NGO years before.  It was generous of her to attend even if she was informed in short notice.  She is currently Kyabaan's managing director. 

The girls who attended last night were all beautiful.  It was exciting to see that they have come to the workshop with the goal to make themselves better.  The value of beauty as it all started starts from the physical but Tita Mae Fe encouraged them to look at their self concept if they are already at the stage beyond the physical concept of one's self and if they are not, are they ready to leap?

I'm glad to hear them say yes.

This activity is spearheaded by 13thWiTCH Design Studio. 

Special Thanks to Anniepie for hosting us.  

We also extend our heartfelt thanks to 

Klea Fifth, Davao Bloggers, Amanda VS, Zerdon King, and Sir Seth.

Impressions @ SuperSale Bazaar in Rockwell Grove

posing with dra while setting up the booth =)

on the floor trying to wax the zippers!

Premium area @ Rockwell Grove

Impressions Display...me with Doktora!
she is such a gifted jewelry designer

setting up! ^.^

It was so cool to see the lights at night in rockwell Grove.

I always find an excuse to go buy something to drink

or harass the coffee lady at night just to

have an excuse to sigh at the lights ^.^

Tin Bersola's Christmas Bazaar @ World BEX

Had my Jewelry display at the world bex at 

Tin Bersola's Christmas Bazaar with the stars.  

It's fun to see singers and entertainers perform 

on stage while we man our booth.  I was also gorging out on 

the food being sold inside the area...it was sooooo yummy.  

I love the Adobo with cheese!

Had my biggest sale on the last day ^.^

Impressions display at world bex

Ate Neng with Impressions Statement Jewelry
Bib Collection

Bazaar Food and Fun

Fellow bazaristas and Ariel Pineda

Only had a few photos of the stars...was busy selling eh hehe!

Not like the movies

Not Like The Movies
(KC Concepcion)

I’m your average dreamer, I’m a true escapist
Always expecting a happy ending
Maybe I’ve been watching too many movies

Maybe I should grow up and start pretending
When I saw your face love, everything was slow mo
And I started wondering why..?…

Why can’t it be?
Just a pathway full of roses
Leading to a sunset view
Where the one you’ve always dreamed of waits

Why can’t it be?
It was like a movie scene, the way I felt for you
Only you didn’t fall, now it’s not like the movies at all
(…not like the movies at all..)

Should have kept my heart shut
Should have been more patient
Should I kept an eye on my addiction

What was I expecting
Did I have a vision of a scene
That only lives in fiction

Now I know that you are not gonna be my co-star?
And it started wondering why..