you're sorry? ok, now what?

Ever notice how a couple fight over something as simple as a glass of water? Or how the woman just fumes when the husband mentions a very common word? You see, it's not the glass of water, it's not the word, it's not even the husband...it's that hurt triggered to surface, transforming into anger.

The hurt is buried deeper than it should-- making one bleed even more when one tries to get it out.  Because when the wound was fresh, you try to cover it too much with pleasing words, you try to dismiss it -- and you pretend it didn't happen -- even before it has gotten the satisfaction it needs in a certain discussion.  

I can feel the steaming heat of a certain supressed anger just as if it is my own in certain people.  I've always had this keen sense of character and feeling.don't ask me, i just do.

but when I get hurt, my sensitivity to other people's aura becomes numb. 

It becomes a sensitivity to myself...where everything I think and feel is geared towards thinking why this certain person has managed to hurt me.

so, the word sorry, when said, when one is hurt, doesn't really mean anything...

it's like poking someone with a knife to know if they'd bleed-- they didn't --but they are dying because of it...

believe me, the knife you thrusted hurt -- and when you pull it back..it will even hurt more -- probably resulting to death...

so yeah -- you can always get a doctor to save the person -- but you see, you already knifed her-- she may live, but she will always look at you as someone who tried to kill her.

i mean, -- well here's another scenario -- 

your bestfriend becomes a murderer.

She tries to kill you. you live.

Will you still call her and update her that you are home from the hospital and it's chika time? NOOO... 

but she is your bestfriend!!! of many years?! the answer would be NOOOO -- she tried to killed you remember?. 

But she's THE BESTFRIEND --- well - duh.

if u think otherwise...there is something seriously wrong with u.

am i making sense? yes? good.  -- no? better, it means you're getting smarter.

Anyways, There is this one forum that discussed about saying sorry - if its a big deal or not...

my first post was this:

saying sorry doesnt change anything.

it cannot erase the past.

it cannot heal the hurting.

it's just a word losers use just so they could sleep better at night after what they've done. 

then someone pm'd me, saying that yes, sorry cannot heal the hurt, change the past, and it will not change anything -- and maybe that's becuase sorry is not really about it at all? 

**my thoughts -- well, what then is saying sorry about? aren't you saying sorry because you've hurt the other and is trying to mend her broken heart and gain her trust again?

then he added -  that maybe its about this -- whenever he says sorry, it's because he regrets eveyrthing he's done ---

*my thoughts -- well, maybe you should then say sorry to YOURSELF? since the sorry is actually about you and what you've done and how you feel about it now that you've hurt someone... (?)

he adds - that it hurts him too whenever he says sorry...

**my thoughts -- (what the frick...)

(*sigh) i don't know the guy and he was nice as hell in his message - but I so want to strangle his horns and slap his face and say - 

halllllerrrrr??!!!!

you're hurting?! just what do you think the other person feels then when it's actually THEM who felt the blow of YOUR STUPIDITY?! 

but i didnt --aside from the fact that it was just a message and I dont really know him and so i cannot gauge his horn if its something i can grab on to....whenever the situation to de-bull him arises --- he doesn't really deserve it hehehe.

he is just someone nice, passing by, cared enough to pitch in his thoughts, means well...it just happened that he messaged the wrong person -- because the biatch who received it feels strongly about the subject **Evil Laugh. 

but here comes the bomb line of his message - Was I just being a jerk who's trying to clear myselft of guilt?

so of cource the biatch has to reply :

... to be in a situation is a choice..you've chosen to hurt -- and yes, saying sorry hurts too. that then makes you think -- maybe you are not the person that you once think you are. 

yes, nobody is perfect, but in a relationship, the only acceptable sorry is when you've hurt the other person because u loved her too much....  

saying sorry about going astray in a relationship is bull...because it takes time to know other people... to like them...it is a process..a slow, intricate one...a process you could have stopped anytime but havent...but you can always say sorry -- but she doesnt always have to accept it, just as you've had the choice of stopping urself but didn't until someone got hurt.  

so, were you being a jerk? you tell me.

ladies and gentlemen, I rest my case.

OLD GreG

this video is so crazy! Was laughing so much and cringing at the same time...So sick you can't help but watch it haha!

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The 5 Questions Most Feared By Men

a mail i recieved. just wanna share ^.^

The 5 Questions Most Feared By Men

1. What are you thinking about?
2. Do you love me?
3. Do I look fat in this?
4. Do you think she is prettier than me?
5. What would you do if I died?

What makes these questions so difficult is that each one is guaranteed to explode into a major argument if the man answers incorrectly (i.e. tells the truth). Therefore, as a public service, each question is analyzed below, along with possible responses.

Question #1: What are you thinking about? The proper answer to this, of course, is: "I'm sorry if I've been pensive, dear. I was just reflecting on what a warm, wonderful, thoughtful, caring, intelligent woman you are, and how lucky I am to have met you."

This response obviously bears no resemblance to the true answer, which most likely is one of the following: a. "Football." b. "Golf." c. "How fat you are." d. "How I would spend the insurance money if you died."

Perhaps the best response to this question was offered by Al Bundy, who once told Peg, "If I wanted you to know what I was thinking, I would be talking to you!"

Question #2: Do you love me? The proper response is: "Yes!" or, if you feel a more detailed answer is in order, "Yes, dear."

Inappropriate responses include: a. "Oh yeah, sh*tloads." b. "Would it make you feel better if I said yes?" c. "That depends on what you mean by love." d. "Does it matter?" e. "Who, me?"

Question #3: Do I look fat? The correct answer is an emphatic: "Of course not!"

Incorrect answers are: a. "Compared to what?" b. "I wouldn't call you fat, but you're not exactly thin." c. "A little extra weight looks good on you." d. "I've seen fatter." e. "Sorry, what did you say? I was just thinking about how I would spend the insurance money if you died."

Question #4: Do you think she's prettier than me? Once again, the proper response is an emphatic: "Of course not!"

Incorrect responses include: a. "Yes, but you have a better personality." b. "Not prettier, but definitely thinner." c. "Not as pretty as you when you were her age." d. "Define pretty." e. "Sorry what did you say? I was just thinking about how I would spend the insurance money if you died."

Question #5: What would you do if I died? A definite no-win question. (The real answer, of course, is "Buy a Ferrari and a boat.")

No matter how you answer this, be prepared for at least an hour of follow-up questions, usually along these lines:

Woman: Would you get married again?
Man: Definitely not!
Woman: Why not -- don't you like being married?
Man: Of course I do.
Woman: Then why wouldn't you remarry?
Man: Okay, I'd get married again.
Woman: You would? (With a hurtful look on her face)
Man: (audible groan)
Woman: Would you sleep with her in our bed?
Man: Where else would we sleep?
Woman: Would you put away my pictures, and replace them with pictures of her?
Man: That would seem like the proper thing to do.
Woman: And would you let her use my golf clubs?
Man: She can't use them -- she's left-handed.
Woman: (silence)
Man: Sh*t.

Third World Driving Tips and Hints Part 2

Part two of the driving tips and hints by PJ O'rourke.
**pictures are not mine but was randomly taken from the google search engine.


Animals in the right of way
As a rule of thumb, you should slow down for donkeys, speed up for goats, and stop for cows. Donkeys will get out of your way eventually, and so will pedestrians. But never actually stop for either of them or they'll take advantage, especially the pedestrians. If you stop in the middle of a crowd of Third World pedestrians, you'll be bying Chiclets and bogus antiquities for days.

Drive like hell through the goats. It's almost impossible to hit a goat. On the othe rhand, it's almost impossible to not hit a cow. Cows are immune to horn-honking, shouting, swats with sticks, and taps on the hind quarters with the bumper. The only thing you can do to make a cow move is swerve to avoid it, which will make the cow move in front of ou with lightning speed.

Actually the most dangerous animals are the chickens. In the United States, when you a ball roll into the street, you hit your brakes becuase you know the next thing you'll see is a kid chasing it. In the Third World country, it's not hte balls the kids are chasing, but the chickens. Are they practicing punt returns with a leghorn? Dribbling it? Playing stick-hen? I odn't know. But Third World Wonders are remarkable fond of their chicken and, also, their children (population problems notwithstanding). If you hit one or both, they may survive. But you will not.

Accidents
Never look where you're going -- you'll only scare yourself. Nonetheless, try to avoud collisions. There are bound to be more people in that bus, truck or even on that Moped than there are in your car. At best, you'll be screamed deaf. And if the police do happen to be around, standard procedure is to throw everyone in jail regardless of fault. This is done to forestall blood feuds, which are a popular hobby in many of these places. Remember the American consul is very busy fretting about that Marxist insurrection, and it may be months before he comes to visit.

If you do have an accident, the only thing to do is go on the offensive. Throw big wads of American money at everyone, and hope for the best.

Safety Tips
One nice thing about the Third World, you don't have to fasten your safety belt (or stop smoking. Or cut down on saturated fats.) It takes a lot off your mind when average life expectancy is forty-fie minutes.

Third World Driving Hints & Tips Part 1

I was reading "Holidays from hell" last night. The books is by PJ O'ROURKE and he is just witty and hilarious. Anyways, wanna share something from the book. This excerpt was written during the days when Marcos was finally overthrown and Cory Aquino came into power, and is in the process of 'rebuilding' our nation. Oddly enough, some things on this excerpt still holds true, while others are not -- please bear into mind that this is not only about the Phiippines he has written about but other third world countries, including ITALY (Italy, as he said, is technically part of hte Third World, but no one has told the Italians). If one looks closely, it's more than a scrutiny of our roads and driving -- but rather a closer look of our nation in road sign signals.

**pictures are not mine but are taken randomly from google search engine.

THIRD WORLD DRIVING HINTS & TIPS
Part one

Road Hazards
What would be a road hazard any place, in the Third World is probably the road. There are two techniques for coping with this. One is to drive very fast so your wheels "get on top" of the ruts and your car sails over the ditches and gullies. Predictably, this will result in disaster. The other technique is to drive very slow. This will also result in disaster. No matter how slowly you drive into a ten-foot hole, you're still going to get hurt. You'll find the locals themselves can't make up their minds. Either they drive at 2 mph -- which they do every time there is absolutely no way to get around them. Or else they drive at 100 mph-- which they docoming right at you when you finally get a chance to pass the guy going 2 mph.

Basic information
It's important to have your facts straight before you begin piloting a car around an underdeveloped country. For instance, which side of the road do they drive on? This is very easy. They drive on your side, That is, you can depend on it, any oncoming traffic will be on your side of the road. Also, how do you translate kilometers into miles? Most people don't know this, but one kilometer = ten miles, exactly. True a kilometer is 62% of a mile, but if somethign is one hundred kilometers away, read tat as on thousand miles because roads are 620% worse than anything you've eer seen. And when you see a 50-kph speed limit, you might as well figure that means 500 mph becuase nobody cares. The Third world does not have Broderick Crawford and the HIghway Patrol. Outside the cities, it doesn't have many police at all, Law enforcement is the hand sof the army. And soldiers, if feel like it, will shoot you no matter what speed you're going.

Traffic signs and signals
Most Developing nations use international traffic symbols. Americans may find themselves perplexed by road signs that look like boy scout merit badges and by such things as an iguana silhouette with a red diagonal bar across it. Don't wory, the natives don't know what they mean either. The natives do, however have an elaborate set of signals used to convey information to the traffic around them. For example, if you trying to pass someone and he blinks his left turn signal, it means go ahead, Either that or it means a large truck is coming around the bend, and you'll get killed if you try. You'll find that out in a moment.

Signaling is further complicated by festive decorations found on many vehicles. It can be hard to tell a hazard flasher from a string of christmas-tree lighst wrapped around the bumper, and brake lights can be easily confused witht he dozen red Jesus Statuettes and te ten stuffed animals with blinking eyes on the package shelf.

Dangerous Curve
Dangerous curves are marked, at least in Christian lands, by a wooden white cross positioned to make the curves even more dangerous. These crosses are memorials to people who;ve die in traffic accidents, and they give a rough statistical indication of how much trouble you're likely to have at that spot int he road. Thus, when you come through a curve in a full-power slide and are suddenly confronted with a veritable forest of crucifixes, you know you're dead.

Learning to drive like a native
It's important to understand that in the Third World most driving is done with the horn, or "Egyptian Brake Pedal", as it is known. There is a precise and complicated etiquette of horn use. Honk your horn only under the following circumstances:

1. When anything blocks the road.
2. When anything doesn't.
3. When anything might.
4. At red light.
5. At green light.
6. at all other times.

Roadblocks

One thing you can count in Third World countries is trouble. There's always some uprising, coup, or Marxist insurrection goin on, and this means military roadblocks. There are tw kind sof military roadblocks, the kind where you slow down sot hey can look you over, and the kind where you come to a full stop so they can steal your luggage. The important thing is that you must never stop at the slow-down kind of roadblock. If you stop, they'll think you're a terrorist about to attack them, and they'll shoot you. And you must alwyas stop at the full stop kind of roadblock. If you just slow down, they'll think you're a terrorist about to attck them, and they'll shoot you. How do you tell the difference etweent he two kind of roadblocks? Here's the fun part: YOU CAN'T!

(The terrorists, of course, have roadblocks of their own. They alwyas make you stop. Sometimes with land mines.)

Diagnosis

A woman accompanied her husband to the doctor's office.

After his check-up, the doctor called the wife into his office alone. He said: Your husband is suffering from a severe stress disorder which could be life-threatening. Follow my instructions carefully. Every day, prepare him healthy, delicious meals. Be pleasant atall times. Don't burden him with chores. Don't discuss problems with him. Don't nag him. And remember to make love to him regularly. If you do this faithfully, there's no reason why your husband won't regain his health completely.

On his way home, the husband asked his wife: "What did the doctor say?"

"He said, you were going to die" she replied.

"why women rule men"

video is from zedge.com

other tests you might want to try out... more when you click on one of the tests

Your Lust Quotient: 49%

You are definitely a lustful person, but you do a good job of hiding it. Your friends would be surprised to know that your secretly very wild!

How Much Lust Do You Have?

Men See You As Choosy

Men notice you light years before you notice them You take a selective approach to dating, and you can afford to be picky You aren't looking for a quick flirt - but a memorable encounter It may take men a while to ask you out, but it's worth the wait

How Do Men See You?

You Are a Werewolf

You're unpredictable, moody, and downright freaky. You seem sweet and harmless, until you snap. Then you're a total monster. Very few people can predict if you're going to be Dr. Jekyll or Mr. Hyde. But for you, all your transformations seem perfectly natural. Your greatest power: Your ability to tap into nature Your greatest weakness: Lack of self control You play well with: Vampires

What Kind of Monster Are You?

Your Seduction Style: Au Natural

You rank up there with your seduction skills, though you might not know it. That's because you're a natural at seduction. You don't realize your power! The root of your natural seduction power: your innocence and optimism. You're the type of person who happily plays around and creates a unique little world. Little do you know that your personal paradise is so appealing that it sucks people in. You find joy in everything - so is it any surprise that people find joy in you? You bring back the inner child in everyone you meet with your sincere and spontaneous ways. Your childlike (but not childish) behavior also inspires others to care for you. As a result, those who you befriend and date tend to be incredibly loyal to you.

What Kind of Seducer Are You?

how abnormal am i

Deviant is a word that I often love. It connotates a certain rebellion to conventionality and order. Not that I love to wreck things and relationships but I don't want to be another society's zombie. Often than not, I get myself in trouble, just because and inspite of myself... My life is weird and my character is just too complicated...Nobody gets to glimpse at my soul...except for one. The word abnormal may come to mind, took a test to gauge myself...and the result is posted below. heheheh!!! but before that, a background (from wikipedia on the word abnormal ^.^

ABONORMALITY http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abnormality_(behavior)

• One criterion for "abnormality" that may appear to apply in the case of abnormal behavior is statistical infrequency. This has an obvious flaw — the extremely intelligent, honest, or happy are just as abnormal as their opposites. Therefore, individual abnormal behaviors are considered to be statistically unusual as well as undesirable. The presence of some form of abnormal behavior is not unusual. About one quarter of people in the United States, for example, are believed to meet criteria for a mental disorder in any given year¹. Mental disorders, by definition, involve unusual or statistically abnormal behaviors.
• A more discerning criterion is distress. A person who is displaying a great deal of depression, anxiety, unhappiness, etc. would be thought of as exhibiting abnormal behavior because their own behavior distresses them. Unfortunately, many people are not aware of their own mental state, and while they may benefit from help, they feel no compulsion to receive it.
• Another criterion is morality. This presents many difficulties, because it would be impossible to agree on a single set of morals for the purposes of diagnosis.
• One criterion commonly referenced is maladaptivity. If a person is behaving in ways counter-productive to their own well-being, it is considered maladaptive. Although more tenable than the above criteria, it does have some shortcomings. For example, moral behavior including dissent and abstinence may be considered maladaptive to some.
• Another criterion that has been suggested is that abnormal behavior violates the standards of society. When people do not follow the conventional social and moral rules of their society, the behavior is considered abnormal. However, the magnitude of the violation and how commonly it is violated by others must be taken into consideration.
• Another element of abnormality is that abnormal behavior will cause social discomfort to those who witness such behavior.
• The standard criteria in psychology and psychiatry is that of mental illness or mental disorder. Determination of abnormality is based upon medical diagnosis. This is often criticized for removing control from the 'patient', and being easily manipulated by political or social goals.

You Are 64% Abnormal

You are at high risk for being a psychopath. It is very likely that you have no soul. You are at high risk for having a borderline personality. It is very likely that you are a chaotic mess. You are at medium risk for having a narcissistic personality. It is somewhat likely that you are in love with your own reflection. You are at medium risk for having a social phobia. It is somewhat likely that you feel most comfortable in your mom's basement. You are at medium risk for obsessive compulsive disorder. It is somewhat likely that you are addicted to hand sanitizer.

How Abnormal Are You?

aww, i was told i am adorable...hehehe!
and if ur laughing ur ass off, try the test,
let's see if ur score is better than mine,
and post it here...yeah, that's a dare bleah!

Nang sumali si Inday sa Deal or No

* a repost from my friendster bulletin, i was laughing hard when i read this...maka sunggo jud!

Nang sumali si Inday sa Deal or No
Deal...

Kris: Magandang gabi mga kapamilya, sa
gameshow na ito importante ang sagot sa
nag-iisang katanungang Deal or no Deal.
Ang ating player ngayong gabi ay walang
iba kundi ang fastest-rising household
service s manager na si Inday!

[ument ra si Inday at nagpalakpakan ang
mga tao]

Kris: Ok Inday, choose a briefcase.

In day: Kris, I would opt for case #4
please.

Kris: Briefcase # 4... si Sharmel.
Inday, matanong ko lang, how did you
come up with the number 4?

Inday: Oh, do you really want to know
Kris?

Kris: Oo naman. I'm sure kaya ko naman
maintindiha n yung sasabihin mo eh.

Inday: The number 4 was acquired based
on a probability distribution function
that involves integrating up to an area
greater than or equal to that random
number which should be generated
between
0 and 1 for proper distributions.
Kr is: Syet. tanong tanong pa kasi eh.

Kris: Ok Inday, choose 6 briefcases to
open.

I nday: I would opt for 7, 24, 12, 2,
15
and 20.

Kris: Wait lang Inday, usually isa isa
lang ang pagbubukas natin ng case...

Inday : Why is that? As if I can change
the outcome if we're to open a case
each
time I blurt out a number as opposed to
opening each case immediately one after
the other right?

Kris: Hayyy...babaguhin pa talaga
mechanics (bulong sa sarili).

Kris : Anwyay, di bale na lang nga...
tuloy tayo. Number 7. Natalie buksan
na!!
[Y ung audience sumisigaw ng LOWER!!
LOWER!!!]

Kris: Teka lang, bago natin buksan...
Inday, usually ang mga contestants
naten
ay sumisigaw ng "LOWER" every time
magbubukas ng case.

Inday: Kris, I guess that's not the way
I was taught in grade school. You see,
I
was taught that we should only use the
comparative form of the word or
add "ER"
to the adjective if we are comparing
two
things. And since it is only the first
briefcase that we are going to open, we
have nothing to compare it to. Am I
right?

[ natah imik ang audience at napaisip]

Kri s: Oo nga no!

Kris: Sige Natalie, Buksan mo na.

[Ang laman ng briefcase 7 ay Piso...
Palakpaka n ang mga tao]

Kris: Good start! Ano yung next case mo
ulit?

I nday: Case number 24 please.

Kris: Chloe... buksan na...

[Audien ce sumisigaw ulit ng LOWER!!
LOWER!!]& amp; amp; amp; amp; amp; amp;
amp; lt;br
Kris : Wait lang guys, Inday may
nabuksan
n g case baket di ka pa rin sumisigaw
ng
" Lower"?
In day: Oh my goodness Kris, how long
have you been doing this? Have you ever
encountered a value that is lower than
a
peso in this game? Tell me, is there
any
valu e left lower than the one we just
opened?
S heesh.

[Napai sip ulit ang audience at
natahimik]

Kr is: Aarrgghh!!!! Chloe buksan na
lang
nga, pati na rin yung 12, 2, 15 and 20
buksan na rin para matapos na.
[naiirita na]

[At sunod-sunod na ngang nabukas ang
mga
case ni Inday]

[nag-r ing ang phone]

Inday: Ahh Kris, to save more time can
you tell Banker that I'm not interested
in his first offer. In the history of
this game of chance, I have yet to see
someone accept a first offer from the
banker. It's quite pathetic and
pretentious for contestants to pause
and
look around the audience as if asking
for advice before ultimately rejecting
the first offer. I mean come on, isn't
that a waste of airtime?

Bank er: Potahhh!!! [narinig sa set
kahit
sara do ang kwarto ni banker]

- Ito ang unang pagkakataon na marinig
ng mga audience ang boses ni banker sa
Deal or no Deal